moderation in all things

I'm learning a lot about myself these past few days.  I've learned how addicting social media can be- not  in a "I must tweet tee-hee" sort of way, but in a time-sucking mind-numbing sort of way.  I have decided to fast from facebook and twitter for a week which, for a newly stay-at-home mom, is kind of a big deal.  I can't tell you how many times I've been sitting around-especially while feeding jake- and I pick up my phone and hit the facebook app and the next second exit out thinking-whoops, nope.  It's this weird reaction that I do without even thinking.

Now don't get me wrong, I love facebook in its ability to keep me updated on my friends and their lives etc, but let's face it-I don't think many relationships are truly strengthened through facebook.  It's like...instead of having a handful of really strong friendships you trade it for hundreds of really shallow/ superficial ones.  Creepy ones, where you know all about your "friends" but other than hitting "like"     -how personal- you never speak to them.  Be honest, when was the last time you actually used the message option to message someone something that was longer than a few sentences.

Again, I'm realistic.  I realize that if I give up facebook for good I will be woefully out of touch with a lot of family etc and will miss out on a lot of cute pictures/announcements (babies, marriages, etc)....but I've fallen into the all-to-easy trap of letting facebook replace my efforts of being "social".  And what do you have when this happens?  a bunch of people glued to their devices somehow being "social" all day while not saying a word to the people who are actually physically around them....weird...

I realize that it's not facebook's fault-it's mine.  I've gotten socially lazy.  Why pick up the phone and call someone to "catch up" or let them know I'm thinking of them etc, or heaven forbid-even go out somewhere! when I can just stalk them online and hit "like" (awww...warm fuzzies....)

So I dunno....I want to work harder at checking facebook less....like maybe I'll check Twitter in the morning when I feed Jake and Facebook at night when I feed him before bed-and no other time.  Yeah...I like that idea...it's amazing how many little extra things you can do throughout the day when you're not checking facebook for the 100th time even though nothing has changed for the past 10 times you've checked-you know what i'm talking about.  What do I do when I have a spare minute in between activities you ask?  Try thinking.  I know, it's weird, but seriously- just sit and muse for a few minutes people.  Get lost in your thoughts.  Trust me, it'll be way easier to get ideas, and good ones, if you're not on facebook all the time, and your life will be better for it.

And on top of that I will try my best to keep in touch with my friends.  I have so many amazing friends and yet it's too easy to get lost in your daily routine or you worry that you'll be bugging them/interrupting their daily routine etc....but who cares.  Life flies by too fast and if I'm not careful I'll be always talking about my friends in the past tense cause we won't be talking anymore etc.

Try to not be as socially lazy too-you'll be glad you did! food for thought....

that having been said, I still post my blog posts to facebook cause if I don't- no one reads them (ironic I know).